Youth suicide is a heartbreaking issue, but research and experience show there are clear warning signs to watch for, safe ways to talk about it, and resources available that can make a difference. If you’re a parent, teacher, counselor, or friend, knowing what to do can save lives.
Warning Signs in Children and Teens
Children and teenagers may show many kinds of signs that they are struggling. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) and National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) identify several behavior patterns and feelings to watch out for. Mayo Clinic+3AFSP+3National Institute of Mental Health+3
Some of the warning signs include:
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Talking or writing about suicide, dying, or wanting to not be alive anymore. (“I’m going to kill myself,” “I won’t be a problem soon.”) Mayo Clinic+1
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Expressing feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, or being trapped. AFSP+1
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Feeling like a burden to others. National Institute of Mental Health
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Increased risk-taking or self-destructive behaviors, including substance use. Mayo Clinic+2AFSP+2
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Major changes in mood, withdrawal from friends, family, or favorite activities. Mayo Clinic+1
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Changes in sleeping or eating patterns. Mayo Clinic+1
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Giving away prized possessions or saying goodbye, or other signs of planning. National Institute of Mental Health+1
Children may show these signs differently than teens: younger children might act out, regress, or show sudden behavioral disruptions. National Institute of Mental Health+1
When to Seek Help
If you notice one or more of the warning signs, especially if they are new, worsening, or combine (e.g. withdrawal + talk of hopelessness + giving things away), you should act. Some situations where you should seek help immediately:
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The youth expresses a plan, or has thought seriously about how or when they might end their life.
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They are in immediate danger of harming themselves.
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You believe they have access to lethal means (e.g. firearms, medications) and may act impulsively.
In these cases, call 911, or go to the nearest emergency department. For non-emergencies but serious concern, contact a qualified mental health professional (child psychologist, psychiatrist, or licensed counselor). It helps to have a safety plan: trust contact(s), crisis hotline numbers, steps to reduce access to lethal means.
How to Talk About It: What Works
Talking about suicide can feel overwhelming, but research shows that asking about suicidal thoughts doesn’t cause harm — often the opposite. Being open, calm, and nonjudgmental sends a powerful message. Kids Mental Health Foundation+2AFSP+2
Here are some research-informed tips:
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Choose a safe, private space where the youth feels comfortable. Make sure there’s time, minimal distractions.
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Start by asking what they know or have heard, or how they’re feeling. “I’ve noticed you seem more withdrawn lately; how are things going for you?” or “Have you ever felt so sad you thought about not being here anymore?” Let them answer. University of Utah Healthcare+1
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Listen without judgment, validate their feelings. “That sounds really hard,” or “I’m glad you’re telling me this.” Avoid minimizing (“others have it worse”) or shaming. AFSP
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Be honest, age-appropriate, and use clear language. Don’t use a lot of euphemisms for younger kids. Explain depression or other mental illness as something treatable, not something to hide. Ele’s Place+2University of Utah Healthcare+2
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Ask directly about suicidal thoughts if you suspect they exist. It can feel scary, but studies show it doesn’t plant ideas; it gives opportunity to intervene. Kids Mental Health Foundation+1
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Don’t promise secrecy if there’s risk. Be clear you care and that you’ll need to get help to keep them safe.
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Follow through: help arrange professional help, keep checking in, remove access to lethal means. Be consistent and reliable.
Resources in Florida
If you are in Florida, there are state and local resources you can use:
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The Florida Department of Health – Youth Suicide Prevention program offers information, awareness, and prevention resources aimed at young people. Florida Department of Health
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The national 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988 in the U.S.) is available 24/7 for anyone in crisis or helping someone in crisis.
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Local mental health agencies and children’s hospitals often have crisis hotlines or after-hours services.
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School counselors and psychologists: many schools have personnel trained in recognizing distress in students.
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Nonprofit organizations like the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), and others often have Florida branches, support groups, and materials.
Final Thoughts
Preventing suicide among children and teens requires paying attention, speaking openly, and acting swiftly. Everyone has a role; parents, caregivers, teachers, peers to notice signs, offer safe conversations, and connect young people to professional help. If you ever feel unsure, don’t hesitate: reach out (988, local crisis services, a trusted mental health provider). It could change a life.
